From Him Mondays: Screech.
The more I think about the wedding, the more I think about the Justice of the Peace.
But I want the big, family-included-soiree as much as anyone. This would all be a little easier, of course, if we were at different points in our lives. If I hadn’t been let-go, if Lizzie wasn’t still in school, if we didn’t have a hard enough time making ends meet before. But what it all comes down to, at this point, is that waiting any longer feels like not telling the truth. We’ve pushed back the wedding date a year and a half already in the name of practicality.
So today I’m dreaming of simpler times. When a man in a kilt and a woman in a village would marry, all their friends and family would be there – because they were the other villagers…Unfortunately, that scenario also has Prima Nocta in it….and that I do not approve of. You can take my land, but you can never take my freedom..or my woman before or after our marriage.
Time to put on blue-face-paint and declare war against twenty-something poverty. On an unrelated note, if anyone knows of anywhere you can make yourself into a charity, I’m open to suggestions. Kidding. Kind of.
Lizzie’s mom took us to Medieval Times before school started as one last vacation before the world started turning again. It was awesome, campy, weird, and a much needed break from daily shtuff. If you’re like me and you haven’t been in the last ten years, you should check it out again. It’s gotten much smaller. Or I’ve grown up a lot.
Our $10,000 Windy City Wedding 
Haha! We felt the same way about Medival Times- the ring looks a lot smaller, but the chicken is still damn tasty!
Whatever you and Lizzie decide to do about the wedding, I’m sure it will be beautiful. Can you host it at a family/friend’s place in Chicago? That may reduce the cost. You could do a potluck dinner or a non-dinner meal? There’s a way, no worries. You two will have an awesome day.
Thanks, Angie. We’re worried about AFTER the wedding, starting out a marriage with no jobs and what not…Sure, it’s pessimistic to think we’ll still be job-less then, but we just have trouble seeing how we’ll pick it up enough in a year to start a marriage on a good foot. We’ve just seen finances rip apart some of our family member’s marriages and what not…you know?
I hear you guys. I’m contemplating playing the lottery just to throw some (begging) karma out there. I’m not sure how people do it. Not to convince you either way, but JLo and I decided to go to the Justice of the Peace next spring after we buy our house. Then we’re throwing a kickass party later on. It makes sense for us and will save us having to spend TOO much money. But I have no doubt you two will creatively and smartly work it out! 🙂
Duuuuuude we’re seriously considering Justice of the Peace’ing it up with a party as well. We’ve got too much swirling around to plan something radical…I think…maybe…we’ll have to see. Aghhh I don’t know.
Hehe, I’m so glad that you’re self-aware enough even in the midst of your nostalgia for simpler times that there are plenty of ‘traditional’ customs around marriage that are totally not cool. One of the wedding books I read was basically an academic exercise on the history of marriage and I found it mostly slow to read, but the main lesson is–what we think is traditional or what we think about old wedding customs is much, much prettier than the reality.
DEFINITELY. Thanks KWu, couldn’t agree more.
lets face it. a wedding is like a giant show. the simpler ‘the show’, the more you get to revel in the awesomeness of the day and your love rather than the spectacle of it. justice of the peace would be perfect!