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Geek Out: My Family Edition

December 1, 2010

Geek Out: A Gathering of Inspiration from Around the Web

In all honesty, as much as I lean toward optimism to a fault, sometimes I massively underestimate my family. I love them. I always love them. Some members of my family have this habit of saying what they’re thinking, even if it’s unnecessary and hurtful. As the most talkative one of the bunch, I’m often the target of some of these useless, sucky phrases.

Over the years, I’ve gotten used to the idea that I’ll probably tear up at some point during the holidays and say to Isaiah, “They just don’t get me.” He’ll console me and wish that I would let him play with my uncles instead of keeping him all to myself.

This year was different.

Sometimes people astound you with what they see. Sometimes they astound you with what they don’t.

But this time, my family pleasantly surprised me.

You go through phases with family. You start out thinking they can do no wrong. They’re all wise. They’re all completely in love with you and your adorable little toddler-10-year-old self. My little cousin (13) is in the teenage phase where you think everyone hates you and that no one understands what you’re going through. I went through that. I think I got used to expecting that phase. At some point (for me, slowly over the last four years), you start to see your family in a different light. The glass image of them has been broken and you start to repair it…loving them for who they are and what they’re interested in as people. This may sound like common sense. Maybe I got it all too late.

My family really wants the best for Isaiah and I. I wasn’t sure they did.

My aunt even said to my mom about Isaiah and I, “Those two are going to make it.” It was the most heartwarming comment to hear secondhand. She believes in us. My mom agreed that she did too.

They talked for a while about how they believed in our relationship because of the way we fight. Never malicious and always over quickly.*

I enjoyed playing with my little cousins…daydreaming about the children that will be someday…how beautiful they’ll be. It was the perfect Thanksgiving. My aunt set up the table beautifully…she would kill me if she knew I took photos after we put butter on the table in the containers. You don’t mind though, do you?

Thanksgiving Table Setup

We came home and at the end of a day-long drive, we unpacked the Christmas tree to decorate. My mom still puts my handmade ornaments on the tree from preschool through whenever-you-stop-making-ornaments-in-school. She gave us a beautiful mini-tree for our apartment. It looks so Christmas-y in here.

I bought a SUPER-tiny miniature tree for toddlers (the brand is called “My Own Tree”) with little mini-garland and tiny ornaments for the nightstand. Isaiah bought a candle called “Christmas.” It’s starting to smell and look like the holidays I remember loving.

Spending the quality time with my family over Thanksgiving really helped get me back in the giving, Christmas spirit. I got to spend a few days with my dog. Did I mention I have a dog? I named him Wishbone when I was 9. I hope it’s clear that I regrettably named him after a short-lived TV series that he reminded me of. He’s a cutie-pie though.

Wishbone - Dog for the Holidays

What’s got your Christmas spirit up to threat-level-red-and-green?

*We want to talk later, semi-in-depth about how we fight…I think it can be one of the most defining things about a relationship…for now, we’ll just leave you with that tidbit.

19 Comments leave one →
  1. December 1, 2010 11:10 am

    Exactly about the family stuff. And that is so beautiful a compliment, “they’re going to make it.”

    Cute cute puppy! We just did all of our Christmas shopping online and that got us in the mood. We’ll wrap them and work on the cards soon and that will also be wonderful!

    • December 1, 2010 9:09 pm

      Thanks, Jo! I’m getting some handmade stuff bought now…but I’m maybe giving myself too many projects to get done before the holidays.

      We’ll see what happens.

      Cards are my favorite part of Christmas!

  2. December 1, 2010 12:02 pm

    This is such a lovely post. Things that have my Christmas-meter on High:
    1. It’s finally cold here.
    2. We skipped decorating the house last year (divorce left me a real humbug last year), so when I brought out the boxes of Christmas stuff, Bean went nuts, which reminded me that they’re her memories, too.
    3. I’m taking the kids to see Santa this weekend and we’re making their Christmas presents to other people. You can’t help but geek out on Christmas with kids who want to listen to music, eat hot chocolate and cookies, and make presents.

    • December 1, 2010 9:13 pm

      COLD IS THE NUMBER ONE THING THAT GETS ME IN CHRISTMAS SPIRIT! Sorry for yelling. It’s that true. Ooh watching kids make Christmas presents will my favorite part someday. We don’t usually listen to Christmas music (Isaiah and I), but spending so much time with my mom lately and her love of Christmas music has been infectious! 🙂

  3. December 1, 2010 1:12 pm

    I’m so glad your family surprised you this holiday season! My mom has the unfortunate habit of blurting out whatever comes to mind at the moment, which can sometimes be hurtful or downright mean (she once asked me if my orthodontist had moved my teeth too far back…thanks Mom!) I know she wants the very best for me, but occasionally I have to ignore the things she blurts out and focus on the things she deliberately says. Oh, Mom!

    • December 1, 2010 9:14 pm

      I completely get that…my mom’s not like that AT ALL, she’s really careful with her words…maybe where I learned it…but a lot of my other family is kind of like that. I’m sorry about that…I definitely get that feeling!

  4. December 1, 2010 1:24 pm

    that sweet little dog face. i am in love! deer dog!

    • December 1, 2010 9:08 pm

      haha! he’s part whippet and part jack russell terrier…he TOTALLY looks like a deer dog though…we put antlers on him just for a single photo every year at Christmas…wouldn’t make him wear them for the whole day…most of the time…at least.

  5. December 1, 2010 8:42 pm

    first: so glad to hear about such a pleasant family encounter. and your mini tree and christmas candle make my heart smile
    second: so excited your watched wishbone too.

    • December 1, 2010 9:07 pm

      Thanks so much, Lisa! haha. The mini tree looks pathetic…and completely adorable as well…but yeah..mostly pathetic. 🙂 I DUG me some Wishbone. My mom even argued with me for a second about his name…probably knowing that show was gonna be a fad…and even still I feel kind of silly saying, “C’Mere Wishbone!” at 22……hm….

      • December 1, 2010 9:21 pm

        please tell me your dog also has some amazing costumes like the one on the show….and if so, please please please post photos 🙂

      • December 1, 2010 9:33 pm

        ha! he has antlers…an eddie bauer vest that’s all teched out and shiny…a sweater or two…but no epically awesome costumes. we do have one pair of GIANT angel wings and a halo that were my costume once upon a junior-high-year that fit him perfectly. 🙂 i’ll have to scan through some old photos to see if i can find any!

  6. December 1, 2010 10:43 pm

    What a great holiday. I’m so happy for you and your family. And such a sweet comment by your aunt. Yay!

    • December 1, 2010 10:53 pm

      Thanks, Ms. Bunny! I had an excellent time chatting with my family and spending time with them…so lovely.

  7. December 1, 2010 10:55 pm

    This is a sweet post. I love this time of the year, not so much for the presents, late night jamborees and the food – oh god the food. But all that aside, its the family reunions and the sweet scent of forgiveness of ‘come what may’ that puts a little tinkle on the star at the top of the christmas tree. I wish you love and happiness as you celebrate the end of a great year with Isaac! 🙂

    • December 1, 2010 10:59 pm

      Haha, so not to correct you, because it’s awesome, but Isaiah has been called “Isaac” by many a human. I wanted to name a son Isaac someday and he won’t let me because people call him Isaac all the time, haha.

      I completely agree…holidays, as much as they can sometimes suck because of all the shit that seems to hit the fan right around November, they can be so healing and beautiful…

  8. December 2, 2010 9:47 am

    Good for y’all. Sounds like a wonderful togetherness sort of family holiday. Perhaps even validating.

    After all these years, I’m still saying my family doesn’t get me. But truth is, we all have different needs. I see it now. Our needs don’t necessarily overlap very well. So togetherness just doesn’t work out the way we want it to, and we all experience different levels of frustration as a result.

    Wishbone is a sweetie pie.

    And yes, I love the land-o-lakes on the table. That is just so America, isn’t it? When I was a kid, it was always Parkay in the tub. But on holidays, we had butter. Now that I do my own grocery shopping, it’s just butter baby. None of that Parkay stuff in my fridge.

    Looking forward to seeing photos of your sweet little tree!!

    • December 2, 2010 11:09 am

      Haha, we use Smart Balance, it doesn’t melt well…it’s kind of depressing…

      I agree…sometimes my family can really surprise me with how much they know about me, how much they get us. Other times, not so. Thanks for the input, you’re a sweetheart.

  9. December 2, 2010 3:43 pm

    no idea what this post was about. i’m just staring at the picture of the DOG.

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