Hair Dilemma
To grow or not to grow my hair longer. There’s a very awkward phase (I hope most people go through it or I will just feel awful) that my hair goes through between “medium” and “long.” It’s the reason why I have only had “long” hair once in my whole life. Back in my volleyball/cheerleading days in high school (Oh, believe me, I know. Cheerleading?)
Anyway, I’m growing my hair out and haven’t had a hair-cut in 10 months. My dilemma? Since I took out my Monroe piercing (in the name of professionalism) and my hair is in some weirdly-awkward phase…I can’t help but feel sometimes like I look a little bit more mature than I feel. I used to feel mod and love doing different styles with my hair. Now I have three choices (since I hate elaborate long-hair styles…I feel like they’re always out of a Kohl’s catalog): Up, Straight and Curly.
So, the story of my hair. Isaiah’s mom owns a rad hair salon in Aurora, where we’re from. She gave me the first haircut I ever really felt like myself wearing. It was a short bob with uber-short fluttery bangs. I don’t know why I loved it so, but I did. This is the only photo I have of it at my mom’s wedding…where I look a little bit like a boy.
Next up, lots-of-layers and way shorter. It looked more rock-star in person than here on Isaiah’s and my first “real” date in Texas.
As it grew out, it kept the shape and what not of extra chunky layers and short bangs.
Isaiah and I while it grew out more.
So now my hair is getting longer…but I feel so plain nowadays. Not at all like the indie/rock-and-roll chick I feel like inside.
Thanks for going on my journey of hairstyles. Now, will somebody please help me decide whether or not to give up on the long-hair quest and go back to my short-hair roots or if I should stick it out? Is it worth it to have long hair on the big day or do I care? I can’t decide…but once I cut it, it’s gone and it takes an irritatingly long time to grow back out.
I’m itching for change, I think. Procrastinating finals with Clueless and hoping for an answer on this question of (sadly) dire importance to me.
Our $10,000 Windy City Wedding 
If I didn’t already love you, now I do. What a hair journey! And Clueless?! YES!!! And I had a monroe, too! (But my body hates piercings so it had to leave me way too soon.)
My hair used to be UBER long (I was a Pom in HS. I know, wtf.) Then I graduated from college and my hair just got shorter and shorter. 1.) I sweat like a dude, so short hair keeps me cool and 2.) It’s so much easier to deal with. I’m gonna say cut it, b/c I know the hot-indie-chick inside of you is screaming to get out. But I guess as a short haired girl, I’m bias.
I LOVE the short with lots of layers look in the pic from your first date. I just cut mine on Friday (it took an entire hour and two beers) but I did it. It’s some kinda weird Rihanna meets Flock of Seagulls. So yea… I should probably go to a salon. (I also gave myself a rat tail four months ago, so I shouldn’t be allowed near a pair of scissors anymore. Yes, the rat tail was intentional. We live in a hipster neighborhood and I felt some pressure.)
Let me know what you decide to do!!!
Oh p.s. I forgot to add- you’ll look beautiful either way!
Another biased short haired gal here – cut it! WEE!! And I concur with Angie – love the first date hair! Thats kinda the direction my hair has been moving in and may be somewhat like my wedding hair as well. And if short is what you are used to, I’d go with that.
But you are beautiful in all these pics, so it looks like a win win win win win situation!
@Angie and @Jen
I suppose it sounds like it’s time to get it cut! I may try to stick it out until July when I go to Chi…I don’t like other people cutting my hair except Isaiah’s mom…apparently “A Trim” has different definitions as do “choppy layers” “Frame face”……etc.
Thanks for your input!
I’m surprised (and pleased) that the input so far has been in favor of short hair–count me in! For me it’s a matter of easier day-to-day maintenance and I don’t get the ‘oh I could do more styles if it were longer’ feelings very much any more because even when I had long hair, I didn’t do very much with it. I don’t think it’s worth continuing to keep it long for wedding hair if you don’t feel great about it now.
@KWu Thanks for your input! I certainly agree with that…even when I have long hair I don’t do anything with it. This is a weird thing to notice, but I always thought girls looked thinner with really long hair. Something about the long hair…don’t know why. But now I realize, I just look messy with long hair. I can’t keep it straight when I straighten it, it gets frizzy when it’s curly and Lord knows this Texas humidity isn’t doing me any favors.
I agree girls, time for change.
The advice that I’ve always heard people give brides is to go with your “natural” look. What I assume that means is no major hair or make-up changes for the big day.
So my advice would be to go through your pictures one more time, pick out your favorite picture of yourself, the one that you felt most comfortable and beatiful in, and go with it. You are going to look great regardless, because duh you ARE BEAUTIFUL, but what you want is to be able to look back at your pictures in fifty years and say “Damn, I’m hot.” Love you Lizzie! Hope you have fun deciding.
Sami I love you too! And I miss you! It was so like “WHOA! Sami!?!” when I saw that. LITERALLY made my day. You are fantastic. Thanks.