Wedding Coordinator Etiquette
Isaiah and I have been talking with over a dozen coordinators about the specifics of their venues. When you are working on a budget, the number one rule is communication. Telling them point blank what works and what doesn’t is the only way to prevent getting snowballed into paying for a wedding that wasn’t exactly what you pictured.
People have not been as excited as I am about the $10,000 budget. Forgive me, but if I can’t have my dream wedding for $10k, something has gone horribly awry in the wedding industry. Or business is booming, depending on which side you play for. Some have sent a second condescending e-mail, “Oh, I hadn’t noticed your budget, here’s our lunch menu.” Others have been extremely willing to work with us and be sure we choose their venue.
I have had one excellent experience and one terrible experience so far.
Worst is First
I can’t tell you how disappointed I was to receive the following e-mail from one of my favorite outdoor venues.
“Elizabeth, Everything we would send you is on our website. www .carraigegreens.com”
No signature. No “Congratulations!” No information. If all of the information was on your website that I needed, I wouldn’t have e-mailed you in the first place. The link to their website was disconnected and misspelled. Hey, thanks for taking the time to make sure your employer’s website was spelled correctly.
Quest for the Best
Gruen Galleries is a lovely space in Chicago. They boast dark, rich hardwood floors, exposed beams and brick. The gallery is stunning. There were no photographs of weddings on their website, however. So I sent the e-mail. I received a call back, not even 10 minutes later. Normally, I am frustrated when I mark, “Preferred communication: E-mail” and receive a phone call. However, she had good reasons.
They recently renovated the gallery, and there were no photographs of the new space. “And by the way, congratulations!” I had a great talk with her for over 30 minutes about what I expected out of a wedding, and how they could provide just that. It’s a family owned gallery and she loves event planning, it was clear.
Gruen Galleries, truthfully, is a little over our designated price range. She assured me it could be done in under $10k, but the wedding we can afford there is much less extraordinary than the wedding we can afford somewhere else.
Carriage Greens happens to be well within our price range. But how far does wedding coordinator etiquette go? I’ll be damned if I’ll reward some snarky event planner because she has the lowest prices around.
Whoever that coordinator is, whatever personality traits you hate about them, will be along for the ride for the entirety of the wedding planning process, all the way up to your big day. Why stress yourself out and go with someone impatient and curt?
That’s my two cents at least.